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The Ultimate Best Man’s Guide to Organising a Stag Weekend
You knew it might be coming, you just didn’t know when. So you your best mate has kindly asked you to be his Best Man for the wedding, and now expects you to arrange an all-guns-blazing stag do that will give him the time of his life on his last night of freedom. No pressure then.
Fear not, our Ultimate Best Man’s Guide will help navigate your way through the mother of all to do lists and set you up for the greatest stag do known to man or beast.
1. Finding your feet
A good sit down session in the pub with the groom always makes a good start. Try to glean as much information as possible. What dates suit his availability and are a safe distance before the wedding (remember, eye brows need some time to grow back)? How long does he want to be away for? What style of weekend is he expecting? What sort of activities would he like to do?
You will also need to know who on the invite list are his best friends and must be accommodated to ensure attendance. Therefore, it’s always best to find out two or three weekends you are both free to attend the stag.
Remember, you will always want to keep plenty up your sleeve for the weekend, so this is an information finding process only. It’s always a lot more fun to keep the destination secret, but this may not suit him so find out his expectations during the chat.
You will also need a full invite list (with email addresses and phone numbers).
2. Who’s coming then?
It’s now time to fire off an email to find out who is available and willing to attend. You need some firm commitment from the group to make things easier for the organisation that will come later, so you may want to consider your wording to ensure you do not receive too many “maybe” responses. It may be worth offering two or three dates and going with the majority.
3. Time constraints, Budget & Destination
You will need to consider the group’s likely budget and time constraints. There’s no point in organising a week-long trip to Vegas if only 4 from 20 people sign up. So it may be worth proposing a first option and see who is keen to attend, before then re-evaluating if necessary.
But whatever you do, don’t give the group too many options or you’ll get just as many wide ranging opinions in reply. Many people who have organised these things before will tell you: keep it simple!
When considering destination, always think of logistics for each attendee. You won’t be a popular man if a large number of the stag’s mates cannot attend because they are too far from the proposed destination.
Once you’ve decided on your destination, it’s now time to organise some suitable accommodation. You might want to consider hotels, cottages, glamping, camping. Hotels are often the easiest option.
If people drop out over the coming months then it’s a lot easier to reduce the number of hotel rooms than to ask the whole group to contribute more towards a 14 bed cottage when only 10 can attend come final payment.
Once you’ve nailed the destination and accommodation, it now time to turn your attention to a Saturday activity. The expectation on most stag weekends is to take part in some form of fun filled activity.
It’s important to consider an activity that is likely to appeal to most people, and to do something that people have not done before. Paintballing is good fun, but may be a bit dull if 80% of your group have already done it on another stag do. So be original and you’ll make it a weekend to remember.
To take the pressure off, you may want to organise the entire weekend as a package through another company. West Country Weekends can help in this respect and you often get a lot more for your money than booking everything by yourself. The benefits of booking a package are plentiful when you think of all these inclusions:
Allocation on hotels meaning instant confirmation upon booking
Individual payment system – this means that you don’t need to collect money from the group, they just pay their share directly saving you all that annoying chasing
VIP nightclub entry
Lap dance club entry
Additional activities – add on a second activity you may not have thought of yourself
Restaurants suitable to groups
VIP Casino entry
Only a £50 deposit to pay initially
7. Final Thoughts
So just to recap, here is your Best Man’s Stag Weekend to do list. Don’t be too overwhelmed by being the Best Man, after all it’s a real honour of the lasting friendship you’ve made!
To Do List
Speak to the Stag and find out who he wants to attend, what he expects from the stag weekend and potential dates.
Find out how many people will be on the stag do and their level of commitment
Decide on a destination based on time restraints, budget and logistics
Ensure everything is booked for the stag do from, accommodation to activities. Book as a package through an outside company if you’re short on time and want to take the pressure off yourself. Try and do this as early on as possible to get the best deals and availability
Look after the stag over the course of the weekend – remember you’ll have the Bride to answer to if you really mess things up!
Top 5 Reasons to have a Hen or Stag party in Bristol
If some of you were lucky enough to get engaged over the festive period then this couldn’t come at a better time. We know that choosing where to have your last big bash before married life is a big decision. You will, only do it once after all. We are here to help ensure that you have the best send off possible. This is one decision you don’t want to get wrong so head to Bristol – you won’t be disappointed!
First thing to organise for any successful Hen or Stag do is a warm bed to stagger home to after one too many drinks. Whether you are saving all the pennies for the big day or want to indulge and treat yourself, Clifton Hotels will be able to help. Choose from four hotels which cover a range of price points, The Washington Guesthouse, The Clifton Hotel, The Rodney Hotel, the Berkeley Square Hotel and luxury apartments – Berkeley Suites (if you are feeling a little indulgent).
With this Bristol-born, independent hotel group, you can be sure of quality customer service and a great nights sleep, if that is you decide to get any! All are able to offer discounts for group bookings which will come in handy when you need to stretch the budget to pay for another round!
No Hen or Stag do would be complete without some sort of activity that will make you all look ridiculous and keep you in stitches retelling the stories for the rest of the year. West Country Games offers just that.
Nine hilarious West Country inspired games, from Cider Run to Wurzel Knockout and our personal favourite, Welly Wanging. We recommend booking this nearer the start of the trip, it all look looks a bit much to tackle on a hangover; however we are sure some of you will be lad enough to take on that challenge…
This may seem like a bit of strange one, but with the River Avon running right through the middle of the city we had to mention the wonderful array of boats you can wander onto and explore. If a civilised affair is what you have in mind, be sure to book a table at Glassboat. A delicious meal with lit up views over the river is probably just the thing to recover from a day wanging wellies. Alternatively head to Thekla for one of their infamous Pop Confessional nights if you feel up to it, where it will be guilty pop pleasures until 4 in the morning.
If you like the sound of this then we do recommend you head to Three Brothers for a very large burger to line your stomach beforehand! Trust us, you’ll be thanking us in the morning!
When is comes to cocktails, this is one thing that Bristol does not take lightly. Whatever your tipple may be there will be something heavenly waiting for you in one of the many speakeasies hidden across the city. These places are strictly need to know, but we’re sure your maid of honour/best man will be up to the challenge and will be able to get hold of the information easily…no pressure!
Our favourites include The Milk Thistle and Red Light, (there may be a clue in the name to one of those but we’ll leave that to you). If you want to get a bit more hands-on head to The Square Club where they offer the option of not one, but two cocktail master classes to suit your specific needs.
Be sure to pay attention though as there will be competition at the end of the class to test your knowledge and there’s a bottle of bubbly in it for the winner!
Turtle Bay also needs a shout out. If you’re starting early then this one is ideal as it’s two for one on all cocktails from 12-7pm.
When you wake up with a dry mouth and a sore head from partying a little too much the night before, craving anything and everything fried, breakfast will be King. And our vote for King of the hangover breakfast in Bristol is Racks Bar and Kitchen.
They serve breakfast until 10am which means you can savour a bit of extra time horizontal before attempting to stand up! Stomach the full English with all the trimmings or take it easy and go for poached eggs on sourdough with a choice of toppings.
With Bloody Marys on offer why not opt for hair of the dog and we’re sure you’ll be feeling ready for the day in no time!
Being the man chosen to organise the stag do should be an honour, but more often than not it can be a headache. So as an insider to the industry here is a simple guide to make things easier for you, the very best man:
• You need to really know the stag’s likes and dislikes. While stitching him up may sound fun to you, remember this is something to mark the biggest occasion in his life. Put some thought into what and who makes him happy.
• Who do you invite? Hopefully his family, friends and colleagues. Pay attention to who he has spoken about fondly and equally those he really wouldn’t want along for a stag weekend. Should the stag’s father or the father of the bride be invited? Only if they’ll liven it up not stifle the fun! Cunningly not inviting people can be tricky as they may be offended, so be clever.
• How many people you invite will influence what you do and where, but which do you plan for first? If he has a lot of friends and is a social animal then a big group is good but takes effort. Some events have minimum number requirements so bear this in mind when booking. Tailor the event to the number of people. A handful can go karting but a larger group is better for paintballing. Groups who don’t know eachother are well suited to events which team people together and have some competitive spirit.
• Simply getting agreements to go is one thing, obtaining deposits and then final payments calls for a firm grasp of the situation. Be prepared for up to a quarter of the list to drop out and don’t take excuses. Check cancellation policies too, is any deposit or payment refundable. If not will it come out of your pocket if someone doesn’t pay up then cancels?
• Cost is a hugely important factor. A good night for one person may be a couple of months’ entertainment budget for another. Try to find something everyone can afford. Heading abroad costs more than staying in the UK. A great low cost stag weekend can be had by shopping around and with the industry being huge there is no reason to book the first event or package you see.
• If the stag has a habit of doing daft things to people and playing practical jokes then maybe, just maybe some fancy dress and photography is called for. I thoroughly recommend it actually. After all you never know when you might be able to use a life size full colour picture of a man, in a big curly wig, standing on a podium, wearing a mankini.
• Have fun and try not to get arrested!
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